Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.

Ephesians 3:20

My Marriage is Over

Marriage just isn’t for me. I don’t get it. My spouse doesn’t get me. I don’t understand my spouse. I’d be happier without them. I’m tired of fighting. I’m tired of the grind. Nothing I do works. It just can’t be fixed.

If this is you, I’ve got good news and bad news. The bad news first.

You’re wrong! Dead wrong! And the reason why is because you have a completely wrong view of God.

God is the Hope for Your Marriage

Your view of God makes all the difference. When you look at Ephesians 3:20, you cannot help but be excited about the hope that this verse gives you. If your marriage is quickly heading toward a cliff and you’re ready to jump off, don’t, because God is the only one who can provide the best hope for you.

There is great hope because God can repair what we break.

It is too easy to look at your spouse and find so many wrong things. But even then, you’re looking in the wrong place. You can look at other people and their marriages, but what looks good from the outside can only depress you if you’re in a cycle of depression and crisis because of a disappointing relationship.

Your view of God will ultimately determine how you will look at your difficult marriage.

God is Able to Repair Your Marriage

God is able. There are probably no more exciting and encouraging words in Scripture if you’re facing a crisis. This is the view of God you should have.

I realize you may be in the deep waters and can’t catch a break, but God is able.

Apart from God, you cannot experience all God desires because you’ve left Him out of your marriage. It’s like driving a car without gas. You can’t get far. In fact, on your own, you’ll probably fail. Here’s what I know. When you seek God in your marriage, He can fix it. The real question is, do you believe that? It’s too easy to run from problems and seek other relationships that seem to be easier. It won’t work.

So how much can God help your marriage? Far more abundantly than we can ask or think. Imagine that for a minute. God knows your needs and understands your relationship difficulties. And He can do far more abundantly than we can ask or think.

So you think you need God to do something in your marriage to help you and your spouse, and God actually does far more than you ask or think. What an amazing hope for broken marriages.

And by the way, every marriage is broken. If you think you’re alone in the struggle, you aren’t.

When was the last time you tried to ask God to help you in your marriage? I don’t mean asking God to fix your spouse. I mean asking God to fix you. You can’t fix your spouse, but you can fix yourself with God’s help. You need to take your eyes off your spouse and how you might be able to make them better and focus on God and His ability to help you with your issues.

Paul tells us in Philippians 2:3 to, Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 

Let that sink in. When you approach your marriage with humility, you look at yourself first as the problem and seek God’s help with your issues.

God is at Work Within Your Marriage

Ephesians 3:20 tells us that there is a power at work in us. That’s amazing. The extraordinary power that is at work within you is because God designed it that way. While it might be difficult to understand, it is true. And if He is working in you, then there is never an argument or marriage issue you can’t overcome.

People around you might think and say things differently and encourage you to give up. However, let me warn you to be careful with who you listen to regarding relationship matters. It’s easy to jump out. In fact, it’s so easy to simply walk away from a marriage and start over. Don’t.

Realize the hope God gives you and the power at work within you. It’s not some fairy tale. It is real. You’re not praying to rocks and other inanimate objects. You’re praying to God, who created the universe and created you. And His power is at work within you.

So what will you do? Will you submit to God’s hope for your marriage? Will you ask God to help you improve in those weak areas?

I challenge you to seriously ask God for help and watch how He exceedingly and abundantly does more than you even ask.